Comparing them together, blogging stands a higher value! I knew about the many benefits of writing and stuff yet I've lost the grip of writing to popular mediocre activities which have ruined my life!
With today's advanced technologies and hence the norm of using smartphones, many people do not just try to study hard or create business to conform to our society's expectations but also higher up their status quo through social media platforms by perhaps starting the day with a good quote on twitter or being friends with important people on Facebook or posting extraordinary & creative images on Instagram, etc. I am not afraid to admit that I'm one of the victims tied down by social media. I had spend more time having my eyes on Facebook & Instagram than studying, so much so that I thought they weren't enough, I moved on to installing an dating app to find a perfect boyfriend to level up my life. That was the most shallow and ridiculous move ever in my entire life, and that's when chaos arises.
From that stupid dating app I came to knew this guy called... lets name him 'J', he seemed perfect at first, when I first saw him, I was like "Wow, OMG, is this really happening?", he is a student studying clean engineering in NTU, 190cm, has a big house and car, fit & good looking with funny and charismatic character. Awesome right? He drove me to places and we spent a lot of time at his place, even met his family like 4 times already, one of which was on his birthday, I felt very special and I thought he's the one because no guy has ever brought me to his family before. Sounds like a fairytale aye? But here's the ugly truth: He was very obsessive, CONTROLLING and sexually manipulating. He was also the first boyfriend who raised his voice at me just because i was a little bit stubborn. Totally awestruck!
I had to sacrifice my Saturdays just to be with him, I had to stop being me to become the ideal girl he had been looking for or in another words to become similar like his ex girlfriend - he expected me to be good at cooking, to have driving license, be fashionable, wear light make up (minimum), be stop grade A student in college, have abdominal muscles, have enough money to travel the world with him and expects me to be sexually active with him most of the time. I tried to improve myself for him and i trained really hard then, I have conformed. But he didn't say it to me of course, it was him dropping the hints bit by bit trying to signal me what went wrong because he kind of figured out that I was a little different from what he expected while I didn't expect much from him.
Wasn't he a little too impatient and inconsiderate? and.....cocky? To ask for this much?
Studying for A levels trying to get at least a decent 'D' grade was already a huge struggle, plus i had to balance my studies with Chinese martial arts when i was that college, Chinese martial art wasn't easy, practicing the routine was necessary and I had to spend reasonable amount of time stretching and warming up everyday, it was enough to pull me out from wanting to revise for my subjects! Yet i had to fulfill his needs at the same time!
He and I only finally broke up in mid year and I thought there was still enough time for me to catch up but NO. Despite the effort i made studying many hours in the library each day before final exams, I was screwed. It was also for the fact that i had very little luck, I prepared tons of notes necessary and what came out in exam especially for literature, turns out to be something strangely difficult to analyse. Moreover, having the knowledge weren't enough, its absolutely crucial that we'll be able to do it fast, writing a 6 pages essay in 2 hours for an instance. Well, I failed in doing that because i lacked practices and spent my time on smartphone and boyfriend.
I mustn't say that the break up caused me any exasperating heartbreak or any emotional pain such that i could not do well in the exams but it was because of all the time that can never be retrieved back that i have lost that i could have used to revise my work better and practice writing more essays.
Time moves on. Life moves on. Everybody moves on.
Moral of the story is to not jump straight into a relationship first, set priorities right and know that it is important to know to to deal with people in life to survive, if you ever feel any trepidation with the person, pause right away and get rid of the person in your life if necessary.
Know who and what is worth your time.
Know who and what is worth your time.
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